Here are some healthy ways to deal with anger. As a parent, modeling appropriate behavior for your teen speaks more than words.
Some people choose to ignore or bottle up anger, but this approach may actually cause more harm because the root problem is never addressed. Instead, try to manage anger so it can become more positive.
RELAX – Breathe deeply from your diaphragm (your belly, not your chest) and slowly repeat a calming word or phrase like “take it easy.” Think of relaxing experiences, such as sitting on a beach or walking through a forest.
THINK POSITIVELY – Remind yourself that the world is not out to get you; you’re just experiencing dome of the rough spots of daily life.
PROBLEM SOLVE – Identify the specific problem causing the anger and approach it head-on – even if the problem does not have a quick solution.
COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS – Angry people tend to jump to conclusions. Slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. At times, criticism may actually be useful to you.
MANAGE STRESS – Make sure to set aside personal time to deal with the daily stresses of school, activities, and family. Ideas include:
- Listening to music
- Writing in a journal
- Exercising
- Meditating
- Talking about your feelings with some you trust
CHANGE THE SCENE – Maybe a change of environment would help reduce angry feelings. For example, if your friends are angry frequently or make you angry, consider make new friends who may contribute more to your self-confidence and well-being.
Sometimes changing the environment is just what is needed to give a young man an opportunity to start over with a clean slate. Contact Triumph Youth Services today to find out how our therapy, school and family-like environment can help your son.
Resource:
National Runaway Switchboard – www.1800RUNAWAY.org
(Taken from National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center’s Anger Management Fact Sheet for Teens)
